Comments on: Does friendship still have any value in the New Millennium?

By: Abdul

Abdul — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 05:24:36 +0000

Priya, thanks for your response. You are very right when you refer to the ‘move on’ mentality. Sometimes move on is recommended as therapeutic when one party is stuck in the past.

I share your distress on the point about having become lonelier as a race and have forgotten the value of friendships.

I think a great deal of cynicism and rank selfishness is part of the traits of the times. That these qualities are justified in several different ways and couched in different languages by such people does not alter their core negative influence.

Forgive me, if I sound disappointed but I believe healthy and solid friendships are like a breath of fresh air. But as is the sign of the times, there is more pollution on this planet than fresh air! Good persons as individuals do not necessarily make for good friendships. Its a different ball game for people to make and sustain relationships.

By: Priya Raju

Priya Raju — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 07:33:01 +0000

Abdul – Interesting post.

Some people tend to view life as so many chapters. School is a Chapter, College is another etc. Once a chapter is closed, they have a distaste for revisiting it. They have simply moved on. The characters that played various parts in the previous chapters – are ghosts of their past. They were alliances of convenience & ergo, have outlived their usefulness. To such people, the chapters don’t inter-weave.

It is indeed disconcerting that – even as the world’s population increases & people are packed ever more densely into this small planet – we are becoming lonelier as a race. Either because we don’t know how to form & nurture lasting relationships. Or because we’ve forgotten the value of friendships. The end result is the same.

By: Abdul

Abdul — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 13:12:36 +0000

Thanks Srividya. Now that you have placed your first comment, I think we can look forward to many more comments from you on sastwingees.

Like you have said about those standing by us in difficult moments, friendship is a trust through life. There is something sacred about these friendships in an unsaid manner, is there not? Atleast, I like to think so.

By: Sultana

Sultana — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 13:05:37 +0000

Thanks Srividya. Welcome on board sastwingees.

You are right about a mature friendship not requiring regular contact but like anything else in life the more the effort and time invested the richer we are for it.

Indeed those who standby us in our difficult moments are our real friends. The intimacy that is developed out of such trials and tribulations in life is indeed special.

By: Srividya

Srividya — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:17:33 +0000

A thoughtful Post Abdul. Matured friendship doesn’t require to have continous contacts also. I have some good friends with whom I don’t have contact for some years together but still they are my good friends.

When we are in real problem in life, we can judge whom we treat as close friend and who are all treating us back as close friends.

This is my first comment on Sastwingees. Thanks to Sukumar. I read his tweet few days back about the fifth anniversary of Sastwingees and came to this space .

An interesting blog. Congrats for 5 successful years.