Again.. the continuation of the story is I encouraged one such girl to go to college. She was very good in math and science. much better than i can expect from a municipal school.
She passed 10th Standard after 3 yrs of break .. I pushed her for that . She was not accepted in most schools due to the age restriction. I had to use all the muscle to get her into this new school.
The girl’s dad took money for the entire 11th and 12th standard from me. The girl went back to school and the dad practically made this 16yr old girl my sole responsibility. I dont shun responsibility.. atleast not in these kind of cases. I can make one step at a time. I am hoping this other girl lives up to my expectation . I am hoping to send her to nursing school if she can score good marks.

I am sure this girl is facing lot of problems in school while her same aged girls are already mothers and wives. Who can help this person. I can do it money wise. on a day to day basis this girl faces more challenges than the one that just married and lives the life she knows of . How can I protect from the verbal abuse and the social bashing on her . When all I wanted her to have a decent life for her.

The one who married this 29 yr old becomes a respectable wife while the one who wanted to be something faces myriad of challenges.

My point is it is easy to make them go to school , they need more of a social acceptance and get emotional support.

But I think that it must be the parents responsibility to look after the good of the children. If they cant make the better decision for the kids then came the govt telling them not to get the girls married at 16 or 17.

It is not the age where kids/ young adults can make a life changing decisions. Is this the popular belief that the “girls are a burdensome” that is leading these girls in to this direction.

Also the media to blame. How many hit movies show that it is okay to be in love ( i dont know what to call) with older person.
These are the movies that will run in the B /C centers for 100 days.

Why ….. because people accepted this. Rarely we appreciate the children in our lives. I feel sad for those who go through either direction as in my story .

When children are treated as children , we bring the best in them.

PS: the married one in my earlier post , I am asking her to go to college , I am hoping she will after the baby is 6 months old.

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The sad part in Malini’s story is, nobody said “no”. Not Malini, not the guy that married her, not her parents – nobody. I don’t think girls are projected as being bad: After all, Malini was a minor & the 29 year old man could have put his foot down.

But out of it all, this is what I think. We should all take responsibility for our lives. There’s a lot to be said about being assertive & taking control of our own lives. What’s the use of blaming society in a diffuse manner for such ills?